2.47 How to Conquer Self-Doubt
“You’re not enough. You’ll never make it.” Have you ever heard that voice inside your head— the one that mocks every mistake and magnifies every [...]
Four ways people look at problems
Four ways people look at problems: When we are in the mode of ignorance, whenever we are faced with problems, we go into self-pity and [...]
Why we fail in improving ourselves
Why we often fail in our attempts at self-improvement is because we are tricked by our mind into aiming for instant improvement – and then [...]
Why some people can’t manage change
Just because things don't work the way they worked in the past does not mean that the world has come to an end; it just [...]
Bringing out the best part of ourselves
Self-control is not necessarily suppression of the self, it is selection of what is worthy within the self. When some people are told to discipline [...]
Feeling unsettled: Good or bad?
To be unsettled is unhealthy when we are living a life of values and purposes. But it is healthy when we are settling for complacency [...]
Why we fail in improving ourselves
Why we often fail in our attempts at self-improvement is because we are tricked by our mind into aiming for instant improvement and then we [...]
Why change is challenging
The mind wants us to stay in our place because often our current place is a place of subordination to the mind. There are times [...]
The greatest obstacle to happiness
Attachment to happiness is often the greatest obstacle to happiness. To be happy, be ready to be unhappy. We all long for happiness, but often [...]
Seeing encouragement amid discouragement
The insecure mind sees discouragement even amid encouragement; The secure mind sees encouragement even amid discouragement. Life is always a mixed bag. Some things in [...]
How much we improve
How much we improve depends not on how much we know but on how much we are ready to say no. Many times, to improve [...]
Protecting ourselves from a bad attitude
Just as we wouldn't choose to live with someone with a bad attitude, why should we tolerate our own bad attitude? Imagine living with a [...]
Choosing to be resourceful
Even if we can't control what we are going through, we can control how we go through it. Sometimes, problems come rushing at us from [...]
Becoming Bitter or Becoming Better
Why do some people become bitter when life gives them problems? And why do others become better, not bitter? That's primarily because people view themselves [...]
To guide effectively focus on others’ potentials not their problems
To help others, focus on their potentials, not their problems. Whenever we are in a position of guiding others, it is natural that we will [...]
Self mastery through leverage not through age
Self-discipline becomes easier not by growing in age, but by gaining leverage. Some people think that when they are trying to battle their lower desires, [...]
Fear looks backward faith looks upward
When we are overcome by fear, then we constantly replay the bad things that have happened to us in the past, and we dread that [...]
Fear paralyzes faith energizes
Whenever we are overcome by fear, we often get paralyzed, not knowing which way to move. We end up unable to move at all. That [...]
Chronic pessimism is covered atheism
When things go wrong or even when we do something wrong, we might start feeling negative emotions rising within us; that's an understandable response to [...]
Be faithful not fearful
When we face great imminent dangers in our life, when our prayers seem to be going unanswered, at that time, we may become gripped by [...]
Casual attitude
There isn't much value in thinking about how not to do something; that will only create fear. If I am driving, thinking about how not [...]