When our mind doesn’t care for the things that matter to us
When our mind doesn’t care for the things that matter to us, we don’t have to stop caring for those things. We can choose to [...]
Anxious mind sick mind — be patient
Suppose someone has a severe disease that takes time to cure. We don't hold it against them if they don't become healthy overnight, even after [...]
Anxious that you are anxious
Our mind is like a machine, and different machines are wired differently; some people may be more prone to anxiety than others. While we try [...]
Planning vs Worrying
All of us need to look at our future and consider how things may work out. When envisioning our future, if our imagination runs too [...]
The difference between anxiety and fear
The difference between anxiety and fear is that anxiety is more generalized and associated with the tendencies of the mind. Fear is often specific and [...]
What is the cause of anxiety?
Anxiety is caused not so much by the lack of ability to control our externals as by the lack of security when we lack the [...]
The mind’s running commentary on our life
Whenever there is a running commentary of an event, say a cricket match, then the event is happening at one place and a live commentary [...]
Are we afraid of looking at ourselves?
Some people who are very bodily conscious and who especially feel that their body is not attractive enough, sometimes are afraid of looking at themselves [...]
Two ways to look at emotions
Emotions are helpful when we see them as information, but they are harmful when we see them as instruction. Whenever we feel an emotion, say [...]
When our mind weakens our connection with reality
Whenever our mind weakens our connection with reality, we need to stop, not rush forward. Suppose we are talking with someone on phone and say [...]
Jealousy becomes the recipe for unhappiness
The jealous are expert at two things, counting others blessings and discounting their own blessings. Jealousy is such a peculiar vice that when we are [...]
When we feel discouraged
When we feel discouraged, we need people who will lift us up, not push us down. Life is often discouraging and to face such discouragements, [...]
The cure for dissatisfaction
Whenever we feel dissatisfied, we often attribute it to some external cause: 'I don't have this house. I don't have this car. I don't have [...]
How to stop worrying about problems
Whenever we are faced with problems, it is natural that we may start worrying about how to drive those problems away. But sometimes, those problems [...]
The right to be unhappy
Just because we have a right to be unhappy does not mean that we are right to be unhappy. Sometimes, such terrible things may happen [...]
How gratitude brings happiness
Happiness comes not by increasing what we have but by increasing our appreciation for what we have. The world often teaches us that to be [...]
What provides happiness – & what doesn’t
Happiness comes not by gaining something enjoyable, but by pursuing something valuable. The world teaches us that when we get desirable objects, especially objects that [...]
Whom NOT to turn to for processing our emotions
When someone behaves outrageously and triggers within us strong emotions such as revengefulness or resentfulness, it is essential that we find a balance between expressing [...]
How to deal with trauma
There has been an alarming increase in the number of people, especially war veterans, suffering from PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). The cause of PTSD is [...]
Forcing ourselves to be grateful?
Cultivating an attitude of gratitude is primarily an internal endeavor, wherein we try to change the default direction of our thoughts. Still, such cultivation can [...]
Two connections between gratitude and mental health
Nowadays, there are increasing concerns about mental health. More and more people find themselves feeling internally slowed, stymied, or even sabotaged by their own emotions, [...]