If our ego makes us incapable of even considering that we might be wrong, then we are not being strong. Rather, we are being too fragile to even go close to the things that can make us strong.

Some people, especially those in positions of power, refuse to consider others’ suggestions, particularly when those suggestions oppose their own opinions or plans. While their position of power may imply authority and perhaps a greater competence or experience, there is always the possibility that others may know something they do not. The world is vast, and no one’s knowledge, no matter how extensive, can ever be exhaustive.

Leaders, therefore, need to remain open to the possibility that others might contribute valuable insights or perspectives that could enhance their plans, even if accepting those inputs requires altering their conceptions or strategies. The Bhagavad-gita (16.4) cautions that arrogance—particularly the kind that dismisses and disrespects others’ opinions—is a hallmark of an unhealthy nature, which can degenerate into a downright demonic disposition.

We may think we are being strong by stubbornly sticking to our perspectives, but such rigidity can often be a mask for fragility. True confidence in our abilities and judgments is essential for any leadership role, but it must be complemented with curiosity. Without curiosity, confidence can dangerously morph into overconfidence, leading us and those we lead into avoidable dangers, even disasters.

Being strong doesn’t mean refusing to entertain the possibility of being wrong. Rather, it involves not letting self-doubt or external criticism paralyze us while also recognizing our responsibility to do what is best for everyone involved. Genuine strength includes the capacity to win the cooperation and enthusiasm of others. This requires a focus not on forcing compliance through fear or humiliation but on earning alignment through understanding and persuasion.

When we are willing to openly hear others’ concerns and address their reservations, it often leads to greater clarity about potential challenges and opportunities. It also helps us refine our plans, potentially making them stronger and more effective. Strength lies not just in getting our way but in winning others over to willingly join us on the path.

A spiritual vision of life further enriches this conception of strength. If we see our abilities and opportunities as gifts from God, we can understand that the same divine source inspiring us from within may also guide us through the hearts and words of others. This spiritual foundation fosters a wholesome blend of confidence and curiosity, empowering us to be truly strong in a way that is both sustainable and transformational.

Summary:

  • Arrogance makes leaders believe that devaluing and dismissing others’ opinions is what makes them strong. However, this mindset only reveals fragility, not true strength.
  • Being strong involves complementing confidence in one’s vision with curiosity about others’ perspectives, enabling leaders to refine their plans and foster cooperation.
  • A deeper, spiritual understanding helps us appreciate that the same God inspiring us can also guide us through others, fostering a balance of confidence and openness.

Think it over:

  • How do arrogant people often misconceive strength, and why are they wrong?
  • How can we broaden our understanding of strength to incorporate the social reality of valuing others’ contributions?
  • How can we deepen our understanding of strength by integrating spiritual principles into our leadership?

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16.04 Pride, arrogance, conceit, anger, harshness and ignorance – these qualities belong to those of demoniac nature, O son of Pṛthā.