18.58 Stop being unfair to yourself
Life is often unfair. In projects, relationships, communities, we often get less than what we give— sometimes heartbreakingly less. But what ruins us is not [...]
Fostering a healthy relationship between our higher and lower selves
Suppose a parent and child were walking together, and the child slipped and fell. Naturally, the parent would help the child up and encourage [...]
Respond to moral failure not by mental punishment but by spiritual reinstatement
Respond to moral failure not by mental punishment but by spiritual reinstatement Life can be a constant moral struggle. We are prone to hundreds and [...]
Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good
Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good Suppose we are in physical pain. We will naturally do whatever we can to free ourselves from that pain as [...]
No one has a right to mistreat you, not even you
No one has a right to mistreat you not even you Suppose someone repeatedly derided us. We would be incensed: “You have no right to [...]
If we are grateful when ability manifests through us, we can be graceful when it doesn’t
If we are grateful when ability manifests through us we can be graceful when it doesn’t Amid life’s challenges, we all look for some ability [...]
For changing yourself, focus on comprehending yourself, not on criticizing yourself
Suppose someone criticizes us constantly about something we are doing. Instead of understanding where we are coming from, if they simply judge and condemn us, [...]
Don’t be oblivious to your weaknesses but don’t be obsessed with them either
Don’t be oblivious to your weaknesses but don’t be obsessed with them either We all have strengths and weaknesses. To be oblivious to our weaknesses [...]