18.35 Three ways to see failure positively
Everyone faces failure in life. However, on failing, some people become shattered and give up. Others bounce back and rise. What differentiates them? It's primarily [...]
5.22 To Overcome Attachment, Cultivate Curiosity
Have you ever tried to detach yourself from a guilty pleasure, only to relapse again? Surprisingly, the most effective way to fight attachment isn’t detachment— [...]
Developing Resilience by Changing Our Driving Question
We all need to develop resilience because life is hard—it will knock us down sooner or later. Resilience is largely determined by what goes on [...]
Focus on who will be responsible not on who was responsible.
Whenever things go wrong, finding someone to blame is a default human tendency. When there isn’t anyone clearly to blame, we tend to presume that [...]
How accountability can save us from humiliation
How accountability can save us from humiliation We all may have some unhealthy habits that we grapple with. We may overcome them temporarily, but eventually [...]
Don’t use others to feel better about yourself learn from others how to become better
Don’t use others to feel better about yourself learn from others how to become better When we are distressed, we often need someone to unburden [...]
If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker, we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves
If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves Suppose we have a weakness, [...]
Choose the good when it protects you from the bad, but not when it deprives you of the best
Choose the good when it protects you from the bad but not when it deprives you of the best Suppose we had to choose between [...]
We are like birds on a branch — our wings need to grow before the branch breaks
We are like birds on a branch — our wings need to grow before the branch breaks Suppose a bird is perched on a branch. [...]
The notion that love can exist outside of sacrifice is a dangerous lie
The notion that love can exist outside of sacrifice is a dangerous lie In today’s world, many people equate love with feel-good. When they experience [...]
If an ideal inspires more regret than reform, an intermediate ideal is required
If an ideal inspires more regret than reform an intermediate ideal is required Suppose a hospital gym has weights so heavy that they can’t even [...]
Turning away is not running away if we are turning toward something better
Turning away is not running away if we are turning toward something better Suppose we see a person who constantly agitates us. Not wanting to [...]
What we know doesn’t define us as much as what we want to know
What we know doesn’t define us as much as what we want to know Suppose someone who is in a disaster-hit area knows the path [...]
Never lose faith in your potential to improve or you will court cowardice and malice
Never lose faith in your potential to improve or you will court cowardice and malice Suppose a patient loses faith in the potential of any [...]
See failure as a practical problem, not as an existential problem
See failure as a practical problem not as an existential problem During life, we all fail sometime or the other. How we respond to a [...]