Two ways to deal with our past
Even if we can't escape our past, we can still outgrow it We all carry scars from our past—deep wounds that cause fears or impressions [...]
Emotional intelligence: Knowing when to respond with equanimity and when with empathy
When someone experiences emotional turbulence, especially during difficult or potentially traumatic times, our response can significantly influence not only their emotional state but also their [...]
Don’t be difficult while going through difficulties
Our life may be difficult, but that doesn't give us the right to be difficult When we face tough situations, they naturally affect our behavior. [...]
How to deal with our past constructively
How to deal with our past constructively Boasting about how good our past was can be as childish and pointless as complaining about how bad [...]
Passing blame is easy but disempowering, accepting responsibility is tough but empowering
Passing blame is easy but disempowering accepting responsibility is tough but empowering Whenever things go wrong, our mind naturally looks for a scapegoat. We want [...]
To be responsible means to stop blaming the outer trigger for the inner trouble
To be responsible means to stop blaming the outer trigger for the inner trouble Suppose we feel tempted by someone who wears revealing clothes. Or [...]
Commitment is emotional investment, attachment is emotional dependence
Commitment is emotional investment attachment is emotional dependence During the course of our relationship with our loved ones, we may get the question: How can [...]
Just because we have a right to be angry doesn’t mean we are right to be angry
Just because we have a right to be angry doesn’t mean we are right to be angry Sometimes, people wrong us by acting foolishly, irresponsibly [...]
Even if we have a million reasons to be resentful still resentment remains utterly unhelpful and can be horribly harmful
Even if we have a million reasons to be resentful still resentment remains utterly unhelpful and can be horribly harmful Life is tough. People let [...]
To treat our emotions as the only reality is to live in unreality
To treat our emotions as the only reality is to live in unreality Suppose we are driving a car, and suddenly the car lurches. We [...]
Maturity means to acknowledge that no one is obliged to fulfill our needs
Maturity means to acknowledge that no one is obliged to fulfill our needs When infants are hungry, they just cry and expect others to come [...]
Ignorance of reality may be excusable ignoring reality isn’t
Ignorance of reality may be excusable ignoring reality isn’t If we are pulled over for speeding, we may be excused if we didn’t know the [...]