Nonjudgmental Attitude

The differences between them arise from differing priorities. Fanatics value certainty above all things, whereas spiritualists value curiosity above all things. Let’s see how these [...]

Let’s explore what differentiates the two so that we can detect and reject any fanatical tendencies that may be lurking in our heart. Approach to [...]

Suppose a boy proposes to a girl. Suppose further that she refuses — and he reacts by threatening her with a gun, thus compelling her [...]

When someone disagrees with us, especially on an issue that is important to us, we may feel threatened. Consequently, we may hear them primarily to [...]

As each one of us humans is an irreducible individual, we all will have different backgrounds, experiences and perspectives. This will sooner or later lead [...]

Suppose our partner came to us and started listing out all our faults, which number over a hundred. How would hearing that list affect us? [...]

Most virtues, when taken to an excess, end up becoming vices. Such is the case with the virtue of being nonjudgmental which protects us from [...]

When perceiving things, our mind routinely reduces reality to not just convenient categories but also judgemental labels. Because our mind is inside us, it is [...]

The world around us is so complex that we need to reduce it to some simple functional categories. For example, suppose we need to ask [...]

When someone wrongs us, we often tend to paint ourselves as good and that person as bad. That makes us feel good, but it doesn’t [...]

Suppose we greet someone at a get-together and they don’t respond. We may be taken aback. Suppose several people neglect our greeting. We may worry, [...]

Suppose someone is driving a heart attack victim to a hospital. Naturally, they will try to drive as fast as possible. Even if they drive [...]

When we see someone doing something horribly wrong, we may feel driven to protest or correct. Nowadays when activism is often seen as cool, we [...]

We may encounter some people who seem to have made it their life’s mission to make our life miserable. If what they have done haunts [...]

Suppose someone has hurt us badly, several times. We may start seeing them as a villain, a person whose existence is a curse to the [...]

When a small child learns to recognize black and white colors, that’s a step forward in their color literacy. But suppose that child, even after [...]

Suppose someone we trust as a good person does something wrong, say become severely abusive or even physically aggressive. Suppose further that their wrongdoing reminds [...]

Scapegoating is one of the most universal of human tendencies. When we face difficulties, especially difficulties that seem unfair to us, we seek someone to [...]