Don’t use others to feel better about yourself learn from others how to become better
Don’t use others to feel better about yourself learn from others how to become better When we are distressed, we often need someone to unburden [...]
Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good
Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good Suppose we are in physical pain. We will naturally do whatever we can to free ourselves from that pain as [...]
If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker, we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves
If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves Suppose we have a weakness, [...]
Even if we are feeling miserable, that doesn’t give us the right to make others miserable Gita 17.16
Even if we are feeling miserable that doesn't give us the right to make others miserable Gita 17.16 When something goes wrong in our lives, [...]
Those who don’t respect themselves are most agitated when others don’t respect them
Those who don't respect themselves are most agitated when others don't respect them When others disrespect us, we naturally feel hurt. But some people go [...]
Be childlike, not childish
Be childlike not childish Children have a charm to them. They have an innocence and freshness to them that lightens and brightens the world around [...]
The notion that love can exist outside of sacrifice is a dangerous lie
The notion that love can exist outside of sacrifice is a dangerous lie In today’s world, many people equate love with feel-good. When they experience [...]
To be nice is not to be naive — it is to be free from the control of vice
To be nice is not to be naive — it is to be free from the control of vice Some people say, “If you are [...]
Commitment is emotional investment, attachment is emotional dependence
Commitment is emotional investment attachment is emotional dependence During the course of our relationship with our loved ones, we may get the question: How can [...]
Trying to get even with others gets us at odds with ourselves
Trying to get even with others gets us at odds with ourselves Whenever anyone hurts us, a natural human tendency is to want to get [...]
When you feel like giving up, start looking up – not sentimentally, but spiritually
When you feel like giving up start looking up – not sentimentally but spiritually When life seems overwhelming, we may feel like giving up. As [...]
Boring people find people boring
Boring people find people boring We all probably know some people who bore us to death. Nothing they say or do interests us – and [...]
Find your own story or you will become a bit player in someone else’s story
Find your own story or you will become a bit player in someone else’s story Suppose we have a significant part in a story being [...]
Mind your mind before you mind anyone else’s mind
Mind your mind before you mind anyone else’s mind Suppose someone’s misbehavior irritates us. We may tell them off: “Why are you letting your mind [...]
Humility means to focus on how we can serve, not on what we deserve
Humility means to focus on how we can serve not on what we deserve In life, we frequently feel that we don’t get what we [...]
To be assertive we sometimes need to be aggressive adequately and adeptly
To be assertive we sometimes need to be aggressive adequately and adeptly The nature of people, and the nature of life itself, is such that [...]
Don’t be annoyed that people are so bad, be amazed that they aren’t worse
Don’t be annoyed that people are so bad be amazed that they aren’t worse People can annoy us in innumerable ways – they can be [...]
Between naiveté and cynicism is the courage to trust
Between naiveté and cynicism is the courage to trust When we are inexperienced, we may naïvely believe that everyone is entirely trustworthy. Exploiting our naiveté, [...]
Never make irreversible decisions based on reversible emotions
Never make irreversible decisions based on reversible emotions Our emotions can easily mislead us. When we become strongly emotional, we tend to make snap decisions. [...]
To resolve conflicts, begin with the 1% commonality, not the 99% differences
To resolve conflicts begin with the 1% commonality not the 99% differences Whenever we have a conflict with someone, our attention naturally goes to the [...]
Those who are not humble often help us to become humble
Those who are not humble often help us to become humble Dealing with arrogant people can be annoying and draining. To view such people positively, [...]