When fear paralyzes do THIS …
When we are driving, a good car requires both a brake and an accelerator, and both complement and counterbalance each other. Similar are the roles [...]
How faith deals with fear
When we have faith that there is a higher reality guiding our lives, overseeing the events around us, and monitoring what is happening within us, [...]
How responsibility counters anxiety
Responsibility can be the cause of anxiety and also a counter to anxiety. Whenever we take any responsibility, we are essentially trying to make things [...]
Anxiety – constructive vs destructive
Anxiety is constructive when it alerts us to the presence of danger, but it becomes destructive when it decreases or deletes our capacity to differentiate [...]
When uncertainty causes fear Do this…
To deal with fear that arises from uncertainty, we don't need certainty; we can use curiosity. Whenever fear arises, we may not always be able [...]
How deep breathing decreases fear
Deep breathing may not remove our fears, but it removes the power of our fears to fuel our imagination. Whenever fear attacks us, it fuels [...]
Be a warrior not a worrier
Dwelling on our fears makes us a worrier; dwelling on how to deal with our fears makes us a warrior—be a warrior, not a worrier. [...]
How to have courage amid fear
Courage comes not from the elimination of fear but from the cultivation of a purpose bigger than fear. Whenever someone goes into a situation of [...]
What is the cause of anxiety?
Anxiety is caused not so much by the lack of ability to control our externals as by the lack of security when we lack the [...]
What’s wrong with worrying about the world’s problems?
Some people think that they need to worry about things that are going wrong in this part of the world and that part of the [...]
Two ways to look at emotions
Emotions are helpful when we see them as information, but they are harmful when we see them as instruction. Whenever we feel an emotion, say [...]
Destiny determines our situations, but we determine our decisions in those situations
Whenever we are put in a sudden unexpected and unfavorable, even unbearable situation, we may resent and even condemn either God or ourselves for having [...]
When we feel discouraged
When we feel discouraged, we need people who will lift us up, not push us down. Life is often discouraging and to face such discouragements, [...]
Be managers not damagers
Just because we can't manage doesn't mean we have to damage. Sometimes things go out of our control and especially if we are supposed to [...]
Three levels of empowerment
To have options is empowering; To have the intelligence to know which options are good for us is even more empowering; And to have the [...]
Becoming Bitter or Becoming Better
Why do some people become bitter when life gives them problems? And why do others become better, not bitter? That's primarily because people view themselves [...]
Fear looks backward faith looks upward
When we are overcome by fear, then we constantly replay the bad things that have happened to us in the past, and we dread that [...]
Emotions: not commanded but cultivated
Even though emotions can't be commanded, they can still be cultivated. Suppose someone is feeling cold. We can't command them not to feel cold. But [...]
Catching opportunities or complaining about opportunities
Are we catching opportunities or complaining about opportunities? Whenever we seek to do something special, we may often not endeavor because we feel that we [...]
How to stop worrying about problems
Whenever we are faced with problems, it is natural that we may start worrying about how to drive those problems away. But sometimes, those problems [...]
The right to be unhappy
Just because we have a right to be unhappy does not mean that we are right to be unhappy. Sometimes, such terrible things may happen [...]