When a loved one hurts us, the pain cuts deep.

To make sense of their actions, consider three possibilities:

they may be heartless, thoughtless, or simply clueless.

 

If we assume they’re heartless—

that they don’t care about us at all—

we shut the door to reconciliation,

and maybe even to the relationship itself.

 

If we assume they’re thoughtless—

that they simply didn’t think

about how their actions might hurt us—

we keep the door open;

maybe they can change, becoming

less impulsive and more considerate.

 

If we assume they’re clueless—

that they didn’t know

their behavior would hurt us—

we open the door fully.

By calmly explaining

how we felt and why,

we can help them understand and grow,

and the relationship can improve.

 

The Bhagavad Gita (12.15) urges us

to neither agitate others nor be agitated by them.

That means when we interpret others’ hurtful actions,

let’s start not with the least charitable explanation—

that they are heartless—

but with the most charitable explanation:

that they were clueless.

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