Value those who value you and don’t overvalue those who devalue you
Suppose we are giving a talk. If the audience is responsive and appreciative, we feel enthused to speak. But if the audience starts frowning and [...]
Attachment is the inability to say no, whatever the cost
Suppose we are buying something. Usually, we would compare its cost with its value: is what I have to pay commensurate with what I will [...]
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness, not on our powerlessness
Some people feel that tolerating makes them powerless: “If things are going wrong and I just tolerate them without doing anything about them, am I [...]
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness, not on our powerlessness
Some people feel that tolerating makes them powerless. To know more about this verse, please click on the image Explanation of article: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fiSddd-O16Y&feature=youtu.be Podcast: [...]
Trying to get even with others gets us at odds with ourselves
Whenever anyone hurts us, a natural human tendency is to want to get even with them, “The way you have hurt me, I will hurt [...]
If we are grateful when ability manifests through us, we can be graceful when it doesn’t
Amid life’s challenges, we all look for some ability that enables us to stand apart. On finding such an ability, we may become proud, delighting [...]
When you feel like giving up, start looking up – not sentimentally, but spiritually
When life seems overwhelming, we may feel like giving up. As a last-ditch effort, we may look up. Whether looking up will help depends on [...]
Know when to give others space and when to give them pace
If someone intrudes into our personal physical space by coming too close to us, we feel uncomfortable. We similarly feel uncomfortable when someone intrudes into [...]
Solutions that try to satisfy everyone usually sway no one and solve nothing
Whenever we face problems, different people suggest different solutions. Because everyone is irreducibly individual, people often have irreducibly different opinions. While deciding which solution to [...]
To speak effectively, learn to let go of what you think you are speaking and hear what others are hearing
While communicating with others, we are often surprised, even shocked by how they misunderstand us: “I spoke something so obvious; why are they outraged? What [...]
Boring people find people boring
We all probably know some people who bore us to death. Nothing they say or do interests us – and they keep saying and doing [...]
Find your own story or you will become a bit player in someone else’s story
Suppose we have a significant part in a story being enacted in a mega-theater where multiple plays are going on simultaneously. But suppose someone misleads [...]
See the addicted not as demented or degraded but as tormented
Suppose someone becomes addicted to drinking. Despite being urged to give up drinking and despite even promising to give up, they keep drinking. We may [...]
Mind your mind before you mind anyone else’s mind
Suppose someone’s misbehavior irritates us. We may tell them off: “Why are you letting your mind take you for a ride?” Even if what we [...]
Our tongue is like a loaded gun that we always carry within us
Suppose we have a powerful, loaded gun. We would be extremely careful that it doesn’t get fired accidentally. Scarily, we all have a powerful, loaded [...]
Spiritual vision sees people not as philosophical categories, but as conscious beings
When we gain spiritual knowledge, our zeal to share it with others may blind us to basic human courtesies. While interacting with people, we may [...]
Don’t forget to compliment those who complement you
We all have painful inadequacies that make us dependent on others who complement us. Indeed, almost all of life’s important responsibilities require us to work [...]
Humility means to focus on how we can serve, not on what we deserve
In life, we frequently feel that we don’t get what we deserve. For example, we may work tirelessly on a project, yet our team may [...]
Wrong philosophy may not obstruct people spiritually as much as our calling their philosophy wrong
Suppose we encounter people who follow some philosophy in which we can find many holes. We may be tempted to call their philosophy wrong. We [...]
Just because we have a right to be angry doesn’t mean we are right to be angry
Sometimes, people wrong us by acting foolishly, irresponsibly or treacherously. At such times, we feel angry with them and also feel that our anger is [...]
To be assertive, we sometimes need to be aggressive, adequately and adeptly
The nature of people, and the nature of life itself, is such that we are sometimes put in confrontation with others. Amidst such face-offs, we [...]