Value those who value you and don’t overvalue those who devalue you
Suppose we are giving a talk. If the audience is responsive and appreciative, we feel enthused to speak. But if the audience starts frowning and [...]
Attachment is the inability to say no, whatever the cost
Attachment is the inability to say no whatever the cost No matter how challenging a situation may seem, there’s always good to be found. Discover [...]
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness, not on our powerlessness
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness not on our powerlessness Some people feel that tolerating makes them powerless: “If things are going [...]
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness, not on our powerlessness
Tolerance empowers us when we focus on our purposefulness not on our powerlessness Some people feel that tolerating makes them powerless. To know more about [...]
Trying to get even with others gets us at odds with ourselves
Trying to get even with others gets us at odds with ourselves Whenever anyone hurts us, a natural human tendency is to want to get [...]
If we are grateful when ability manifests through us, we can be graceful when it doesn’t
If we are grateful when ability manifests through us we can be graceful when it doesn’t Amid life’s challenges, we all look for some ability [...]
When you feel like giving up, start looking up – not sentimentally, but spiritually
When you feel like giving up start looking up – not sentimentally but spiritually When life seems overwhelming, we may feel like giving up. As [...]
Know when to give others space and when to give them pace
Know when to give others space and when to give them pace If someone intrudes into our personal physical space by coming too close to [...]
Solutions that try to satisfy everyone usually sway no one and solve nothing
Whenever we face problems, different people suggest different solutions. Because everyone is irreducibly individual, people often have irreducibly different opinions. While deciding which solution to [...]
To speak effectively learn to let go of what you think you are speaking and hear what others are hearing
To speak effectively learn to let go of what you think you are speaking and hear what others are hearing While communicating with others, we [...]
Boring people find people boring
Boring people find people boring We all probably know some people who bore us to death. Nothing they say or do interests us – and [...]
Find your own story or you will become a bit player in someone else’s story
Find your own story or you will become a bit player in someone else’s story Suppose we have a significant part in a story being [...]
See the addicted not as demented or degraded but as tormented
See the addicted not as demented or degraded but as tormented Suppose someone becomes addicted to drinking. Despite being urged to give up drinking and [...]
Mind your mind before you mind anyone else’s mind
Mind your mind before you mind anyone else’s mind Suppose someone’s misbehavior irritates us. We may tell them off: “Why are you letting your mind [...]
Our tongue is like a loaded gun that we always carry within us
Our tongue is like a loaded gun that we always carry within us Suppose we have a powerful, loaded gun. We would be extremely careful [...]
Spiritual vision sees people not as philosophical categories, but as conscious beings
Spiritual vision sees people not as philosophical categories but as conscious beings When we gain spiritual knowledge, our zeal to share it with others may [...]
Don’t forget to compliment those who complement you
Don't forget to compliment those who complement you We all have painful inadequacies that make us dependent on others who complement us. Indeed, almost all [...]
Humility means to focus on how we can serve, not on what we deserve
Humility means to focus on how we can serve not on what we deserve In life, we frequently feel that we don’t get what we [...]
Wrong philosophy may not obstruct people spiritually as much as our calling their philosophy wrong
Wrong philosophy may not obstruct people spiritually as much as our calling their philosophy wrong Suppose we encounter people who follow some philosophy in which [...]
Just because we have a right to be angry doesn’t mean we are right to be angry
Just because we have a right to be angry doesn’t mean we are right to be angry Sometimes, people wrong us by acting foolishly, irresponsibly [...]
To be assertive we sometimes need to be aggressive adequately and adeptly
To be assertive we sometimes need to be aggressive adequately and adeptly The nature of people, and the nature of life itself, is such that [...]